Adoption

Since focusing on on some key areas of needs in our families is my passion, I would like to discuss a little bit about each area, my thoughts and experience.  Maybe this synopsis will give you an idea of where I am coming from in each area. Today I will discuss adoption and how it became an important aspect of my life.

I had heard of families adopting children, giving them a home and calling them their own…especially working with the special needs population, this can be quite prevalent.  But it had never touched my life as personally as it did over 2 years ago.  My husband and I decided to pursue adoption though the foster care system in the county that we were living at the time, after getting the okay from our son, that is! We fell in love and cared for our daughter for a few months through fostering and then she officially became our daughter through adoption…and now we just call her our daughter!  We were so fortunate to be able to take a child that had been nurtured and cared for by very loving foster parents before us.  Although the transition at first was challenging, she quickly settled into a very comfortable life with us as her family and we can’t imagine life before her or without her.

This doesn’t mean that there aren’t challenges…there  are, many of them.  She is a child with high sensitivities to sensory input and has the added challenge of experiencing several traumas in her very young life.  This is hard for her to process and we proceed in each day as a new day, with new joys and new outcomes.

Another way adoption has entered our family is that my husband, who is not my 18 year old son’s biological father, adopted my son about a year after we married.  This is actually how we became interested in adoption and considered as it a possibility for our other children.  Through this adoption process, we came to truly understand what the word adoption really means.

Adoption is not only giving a child a home, a warm place to sleep, food in his belly and all the things that money can buy.  No, it is more than that…it is giving your adopted child your heart, your joys, your sorrows and simply living life with them.

It is really a sacred connection that takes place.

You are connected, not by a biological connection, but by a conscious choice to love a child, no matter what the history of this child and no matter what may come from the connection.  Yes, you are choosing to adopt a child, but it seems as though this child and the universe itself, has chosen this child for you, like it is destiny for the bond and connection to take place.  That is what I mean by a ‘sacred connection’.

Having said this, there are challenges.  Any time you take a child into your home that has had early trauma and it has affected their development, there will be obstacles to overcome.  What I hope to offer you here are resources to overcome those challenges and to be the best parent you can be….and more importantly, to be able to see your child as the beautiful child that they are and to be connected to them in ways that will encourage peace in your home.  In doing this, you will feel compelled to help others experience the same freedom.  I have created a group for Empower Your Village to help you connect with others on the same journey.  There are many of us attempting to make sense of this life of being adoptive parents….many who have been living it for a while and can offer so much to the conversation and many who are just starting out, but have an equal amount to give. Use this resource to your advantage! I know how hard it can be to find just 2 minutes to yourself….but if you find yourself at a place of needing a connection with someone walking the same journey as you, this is the place for you.

I believe that we are all in this together, creating that village that will honor children and will honor each other in each challenge and in each success.

The Gift of Life

I didn’t give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
As if it had been so.

For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn’t give you
The gift of life,
Life gave me the gift of you.
— Unknown

Peace to you as you enjoy this wonderful, sacred journey of adoption…and know that you are not alone….

Christy

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